Stefan Grygelko (June 17, 1967 – April 3, 2023), best known by the name Heklina, was an American actor, drag queen, LGBT rights activist and entrepreneur based in San Francisco, California. Born in the Minneapolis area,[1] Grygelko's mother was Icelandic; he lived in the Nordic country for a period of three years in the 1980s,[2] with the name "Heklina" being created after an Icelandic volcano, Hekla.[3] Heklina founded the iconic San Francisco LGBT/drag nightclub and live show Trannyshack in 1996.[4]
I think that drag queens are still the eunuch clown that's safe to laugh at. It's definitively not shocking anymore. So I don't know if America's really embraced it. The early 90s was when RuPaul [was becoming famous] and it was the first time any drag queen had mainstream exposure. I don't really see a drag queen breaking out like that [again].
It has several meanings; the new "Mothership" of drag in SF, something warm and comforting, nurturing even. And it also ties into the "drag mother" thing. This will be a place for all drag mothers to bring their children, to hone their craft.
Heklina co-founded Trannyshack, and hosted the show from its inception in 1996 at the Stud bar, as well as an offshoot in Los Angeles, and continued to host special events throughout San Francisco, Los Angeles, and Palm Springs, among other Californian cities.[6]Trannyshack was the longest-running drag event series in San Francisco.[7] On January 17, 2015, at The Oasis, Trannyshack was rebranded to Mother, evolving from a monthly to a weekly event series.
Heklina also co-produced and co-hosted the Miss Trannyshack Pageant, widely considered the premiere annual drag event in San Francisco, having sold-out every year since its debut.[8][9][10]
Theater and community activities
Heklina acted in local theatre productions, most notably the S.F. Golden Girls productions (as Dorothy Zbornak), and emceed a variety of community and charitable events, including the Folsom Street Fair (along with Sister Roma) and San Francisco Pride.[11] She was voted Community Grand Marshal of the 2004 San Francisco GLBTQ Pride Parade,[12] and won the 2009 Pride Creativity Award for Outstanding Artistic Contribution to the LGBT Community. She was sainted by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence.[13] Heklina co-starred in a series of short films called the Tran-ilogy of Terror, a series of drag horror spoofs written and directed by long-time collaborator Peaches Christ,[14] and also starred in the film Baby Jane?.
The Oasis
The Oasis, a theatre and cabaret nightclub located in San Francisco's SoMa district,[15] hosted a grand opening event on New Year's Eve 2014; Heklina, along with three business partners (D'Arcy Drollinger, Geoff Benjamin, and Jason Beebout), signed a deal to purchase the former Oasis in October of that year. The nightclub's diverse programming features touring drag performers, cabaret and various performing artists, live musical acts, DJs and more.
Mommie Queerest
In 2022, Heklina and Peaches Christ appeared in Mommie Queerest, a drag parody of Mommie Dearest (1981), in Palm Springs and Seattle.[16] In April 2023, Heklina and Peaches both traveled to England, where the duo was set to perform the show in London and Manchester.[17]
Death
On April 3, 2023, Grygelko, aged 55, was discovered dead in his London hotel room by longtime collaborator and friend Peaches Christ.[18][19][20] The two had been in the UK preparing for a series of performances of their stage show Mommie Queerest. No foul play was suspected in his death.[21]
On her Instagram, Peaches Christ posted the following message that same day: "I am shocked and horrified to bring this news to you. I am living in a real-life nightmare so forgive me if I don’t have all the answers just now. This morning, in London, England I went to collect my dear friend Heklina, who is costarring with me in a Mommie Queerest show here, and found her dead. I do not know the cause of death yet. I know this is shocking news and I am beyond stunned, but I wanted to let folks know what has happened. Heklina is not just my best friend, but a beloved icon of our community. I am a mess. Given this crisis, please do not try to contact me as I am utterly heartbroken, stunned, and focusing on what needs to get done next. I shall be in touch."[22]
