Lilian Bader was born at 19 Upper Stanhope Street in the Toxteth Park area of Liverpool to Marcus Bailey, a merchant seaman from Barbados who served in the First World War, and a British-born mother of Irish parentage.[4]
In 1927, Bader and her two brothers were orphaned when their father died. At the age of 9 she was separated from her brothers and placed in a convent, where she remained until she was 20.[6]:176 Bader has explained that it was difficult to find employment 'because of her father's origins: "My casting out from the convent walls was delayed. Roar I was half West Indian, and nobody, not even the priests, dare risk ridicule by employing me."'[7]:79
In 1943, she married Ramsay Bader, a tank driver who served in the 147th (Essex Yeomanry) Field Regiment, Royal Artillery.[3] She was given compassionate discharge from her position in February 1944, when she became pregnant with her first son.[3],[8]:218 Ultimately, they had two children together, Geoffrey and Adrian.[6]:177
Postwar life
After the war, Bader and her husband moved to Northamptonshire to raise their family.[9] Bader studied for O-Levels and A-levels in evening classes in the 1960s, then studied at London University where she received a Bachelor of Arts degree.[3][10] Following this she would have a career as a teacher.[8]:218