Best friends forever

For other uses, see Best friends forever (disambiguation).
The words "Best Friends Forever" written on the Golden Gate Bridge.

“Best friends forever” is a phrase that describes a close friendship. It is often written as the initialism BFF.

Definition

A BFF is a term for someone's best friend or close friend and is characterized by trust and permanence, irrespective of the number of times the meaning of friendship has been changed in their lives.[1] BFFs are usually in close contact and have shared experiences, such as attending the same school or sharing musical tastes. Relationships described as BFF are common in elementary school, middle school, high school and often decline when the parties go to college.[2] The term BFF does not necessarily convey exclusivity; depending on a person's individual interpretation or philosophy of the concept of "BFF", an individual may not have more than one BFF simultaneously.[3]

Origin

In the Friends episode "The One at the Beach", Phoebe uses the term BFF and has to explain to the rest of the gang that it means "best friends forever". Although the concept of having or being a "best friend" is ageless, the acronym BFF was popularized as a quick way for friends to sign off and express their positive feelings for one another while instant-messaging (IM-ing) on the computer or sending a text message on cell phones.[3]

The acronym "BFF" was added to the New Oxford American Dictionary on 16 September 2010.[4] The Oxford English Dictionary documents a use of BFF in 1978.[5]

Cultural perception

According to a survey in France, the BFF friendship is a concept that occupies a certain place on social networks.[6] This value is reassuring, especially for the millennial generation that experiences a divorce frequently. It is a sign of social success and a balanced life.

A large survey of friendship in the UK in 2003 found that on average, people had nine close friends.[1] In elementary and middle school, best friendships often last less than one full academic year.[7]

Barbara Delinsky described a BFF as "someone you don't have to see every day to still connect with, someone who loves you whether you talk often or not, someone who would drop everything and catch the next flight if you needed her. It's someone who couldn't care less where or what she eats, as long as she's with you."[8]

Academic studies

In 2010, the BFF concept was a part of a BFF contract "to encourage the signatories to work through their differences before splitting up."[9]

In a study conducted at the University of Oxford, Tamas David-Barrett and his colleagues reported that there is an unusually large number of profile pictures on Facebook that depict two women.[10] This pattern is present in each region of the world. After eliminating the alternative hypotheses, the study concluded that the finding suggests that (a) close friendship formation patterns are universal among humans, and (b) there is a marked gender difference in the propensity to form lasting friendship due to an evolutionary ultimate cause.[10] This suggests that the BFF concept, albeit with a different name, may exist in many cultures, going back to evolutionary times. Recent studies have also shown that close friends are treated as siblings[11] throughout the lifespan.[12]

Commercial use

Coca-Cola has used the expression on some of their products. For example, some of their cans and bottles say, "Share a Diet Coke with your BFF".[13]

References

  1. ^ a b Irene S. Levine (2009), "Ch. 1: Understanding Female Friendships", Best Friends Forever, Penguin, ISBN 9781590203705
  2. ^ Debra L. Oswald, Eddie M. Clark (2003), "Best friends forever?: High school best friendships and the transition to college", Personal Relationships, 10 (2): 187–196, doi:10.1111/1475-6811.00045
  3. ^ a b "BFF: DOB 1996 - Welcome to the Oxford English Dictionary". Psychology Today.
  4. ^ "My BFF just told me "TTYL" is in the dictionary. LMAO. - OUPblog". OUPblog. 16 September 2010.
  5. ^ Oxford English Dictionary s.v.
  6. ^ Mina Soundiram, lexpress.fr, Amitié: appartenir à une bande est devenu un signe de réussite sociale, France , December 14, 2015
  7. ^ Berndt, T. J.; Hawkins, J. A.; Hoyle, S. G. (1986). "Changes in friendship during a school year: Effects on children's and adolescents' impressions of friendship and sharing with friends". Child Development. 57 (5): 1284–1297. doi:10.2307/1130451. JSTOR 1130451.
  8. ^ "What is a BFF?". barbaradelinsky.com. 29 February 2012.
  9. ^ "The BFF Contract makes friendships a lasting proposition", Sarasota Herald Tribune, p. B1, February 11, 2010, archived from the original on May 31, 2020, retrieved March 25, 2014
  10. ^ a b David-Barrett, Tamas; Rotkirch, Anna; Carney, James; Behncke Izquierdo, Isabel; Krems, Jaimie A.; Townley, Dylan; McDaniell, Elinor; Byrne-Smith, Anna; Dunbar, Robin I. M. (2015-03-16). "Women Favour Dyadic Relationships, but Men Prefer Clubs: Cross-Cultural Evidence from Social Networking". PLOS ONE. 10 (3): e0118329. Bibcode:2015PLoSO..1018329D. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0118329. PMC 4361571. PMID 25775258.
  11. ^ Rotkirch, Anna; Lyons, Minna; David-Barrett, Tamas; Jokela, Markus (1 October 2014). "Gratitude for Help among Adult Friends and Siblings". Evolutionary Psychology. 12 (4): 673–686. doi:10.1177/147470491401200401. PMC 10556435. PMID 25300047.
  12. ^ David-Barrett, Tamas; Behncke Izquierdo, Isabel; Carney, James; Nowak, Katharina; Launay, Jacques; Rotkirch, Anna (14 May 2016). "Life course similarities on social networking sites". Advances in Life Course Research. 30: 84–89. doi:10.1016/j.alcr.2016.04.002.
  13. ^ Coca-Cola Celebrates a Summer of Sharing Archived 2019-08-24 at the Wayback Machine, Coca-Cola Press Release June 10, 2014