Anita Eileen Carey was born on 16 April 1948,[3] in Halifax, to Sidney Carey, a postal worker, and Louisa Crowther. She was brought up in Brighouse and upon leaving Holmfirth Secondary Modern School at 14, she worked as a typist for a carpet firm. At the same time, she acted with a drama club run by Esme Church at Bradford Civic Playhouse. Aged 19, Carey and her then fiancé, Steve Hodson, successfully auditioned to train at the Central School of Speech and Drama, which she attended from 1967 to 1970.[3]
In 1973, while appearing in a stage production in Sheffield, Carey met actor Mark Wing-Davey, a member of the company there.[3] The two began living together the following year.[3] They married in 2002.[3] The pair had two children together. After Wing-Davey took a job in the U.S., they moved there together and she began appearing in American stage productions.[3]
Carey was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2010 and died of it on 19 July 2023, aged 75.[3] Her ashes are interred in the cemetery at Favières (Somme) France.